Do you ever wonder why you just hate a person for no reason? I do! I hated a lot of people in the past and I have no logical explanation behind it. A few of the people I hated on turned out to be really great and I liked them eventually, which meant that there was really no basis for my attitude towards them.
This unexplainable attitude extends to activities as well. You see my wife loves gardening, but I hate it for no reason!
My wife would spend a few hours a day in our garden watering plants, getting rid of weeds, and transferring plants to different pots. I would see her talk to her plants and she would even take our baby with her. My wife would never let a day pass without tending her garden.
Sometimes when we get home late from an event or something, she would still go out and check her garden for a few minutes. I tell her that what she considers relaxing is hard labor for me. Someone has to pay me to do gardening, and I still need to think about it.
There were a few times when she would ask me to do simple things in her garden— like move pots around or water the plants when it’s hot out— and I would hate every single minute of it. It’s not hard, I just don’t like doing it.
One day she FaceTimed me to ask me to water her calamansi tree and bring it to our front door because she sold it and the buyer was going to pick it up. I got so grumpy about it! I did it but the way I said “yes” to my wife was definitely annoying to hear, and the way I did the task was not a pleasant sight to see. I was a grown man who acted like an emo teenager being forced to socialise.
After I set up the calamansi tree outside, I heard the Holy Spirit tell me sarcastically, “That was mature.” The Holy Spirit talks to me in ways I could understand, and I get it, we should be able to sacrifice for the people we love, that is if we truly love them enough.
Here’s what the Bible says:
1 Corinthians 13:1-3
New International Version (NIV)
13 If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. 3 If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.
We could get everything that the world has to offer, but if we do not have genuine love— for ourselves, for people and God— then we really don’t have anything. We should think highly of other people and consider their needs above ours whenever possible.
Do I love gardening now? I don’t think so, but I’ll do it because I love my wife. I‘ll get my hands wet and dirty. I will do it with a smile and joy in my heart, or maybe I’ll just get it done.